ear Courtland,
I’m sure that you’re mighty frustrated that you cannot read these words. Nor understand them when I read this to you this evening. Frustration is a key sentiment in your emotional vocabulary these days. Its roots lie in our inability to understand your every demand and desire. We need you to find your words, English words, and fast, before this entire house collapses under the weight of your stomping, flailing feet and body hurling itself to the floor.
You have a language, my dear. Just not one that we understand. Often times, that’s more than okay, and you contentedly babble strings of garbled syllables together and we talk right back to you like we comprehend every “bah dah dat!” But other times, when you are feverishly trying to communicate your current plea, and Daddy and I are not picking up what you’re putting down, well, we very quickly see a transformation from babbly, smily, happy toddler to furious, tantrum-throwing, fire-breathing monster. We’ve taught you more sign language than we ever taught Sunny because you are much more particular and insistent and require an ability to more specifically and immediately communicate your needs. You’ve mastered “more,” “please,” “thank you” (which usually transforms into abundant air kisses), “up,” “down,” and “finished.” Finished is by far the most adorable sign, as rather than turning your hands and wrists from side to side, you merely fold and unfold your fingers into fists with your arms lifted high above your head. And oh, I die and go to toddler heaven every time.
You are Independent. With a capital I. You not only want us to understand and meet your every whim and fancy, you want to do almost everything for yourself, by yourself. If we dare try to feed you dinner, you throw your head and shoulders back over the edge of the highchair, lips clasped shut, before furiously shaking your head back and forth. Daddy commented last night that he doesn’t remember dinner being quite so messy when Sunny was this age. And it’s merely because you feed yourself every meal, and due to the limitations of 17 month old dexterity, a decent portion winds up on the floor, or Ursa’s head, every day, three times a day. But, man, you wield a spoon better than any soon-to-be 1.5 year old that I’ve ever seen.
You love playing with your baby dolls. You drag them around the house by random appendages, stopping to cradle them in your arms, while cooing “Awwww” and bestowing sloppy toddler kisses on their head. You pretend to feed them food from the kitchen, making smacking and slurping noises with your mouth to imitate their eating. Then you smother them in piles of baby blankets, tucked on random cushions or floor spaces that you use as make-shift beds. Primarily because your older sister is having a tough time sharing the doll bed that Santa Claus bestowed on our household this Christmas. Trust me when I say, that despite your frequent bickering and screaming and grabbing at one another, you are each other’s favorite people in the whole wide Universe. Sunny informed me last night that you were her best friend. And I quite agree with that statement.
Also, an -ism that is so distinctly you that your Daddy and I discuss often is the way in which you grunt and strain and moan and groan whenever you pick something up, or help me with the laundry, or carry something to the trash. The most minute of physical exertions is met with loud, deliberate “Uuugggggghs!” and “Ohhhhhs” like that of a very out-of-shape, older man. It is adorable. Don’t ever change.
The most delightful, most endearing, most delectable thing about you, darling girl, is your effusive and affectionate personality. You bestow kisses and hugs unexpectedly, with an uninhibited freedom and air that I envy and I hope you never ever lose. If you are feeling like you want a kiss, you’ll stop me mid-conversation by grabbing my face and planting an open-mouthed, slobbery wet one right on the lips. Then you smile wildly and nuzzle into my chest. This weekend, when you were wide awake at 4 in the morning, I had you nestled in bed with me and you repeatedly pulled your face up to mine to kiss and rub noses and well, smart, my love, very smart indeed. How could I be annoyed when such sweetness was being showered upon me?
You are a toddling paradox, my Whaley girl. And I so admire that about you. It keeps us on our toes and it keeps people guessing. As you get older, you’ll learn what an invaluable asset that is.
Happy 17 months,
143 Mama