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Month: November, 2012

Jamescapes // 5

I can’t seem to get away from the night photos, but I didn’t want to lose either of my fans’ interest (thanks Sunny and Kaki), so I I decided to shoot in the daylight.

Ashley and I have been taking turns running the dogs before the kids get up. We’re lucky the neighbors are awesome, and that we live in a Green Mountain valley of lollipops, rainbows, and unicorns. It’s November, so our lollipops are cold and covered in frost in the morning, which just makes them cooler. Literally (hah!). Nothing quite like a frosty unicorn.

1. Or a frosty cattail. Cue lil’ golden sunrise light, stage right – to make this awesome country-farm-lovin shot. Love the blurry outhouse.

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2. Super indoor riding ring….where we house the unicorns.

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3. Rock where the rainbows terminate. Not moss….Leprechaun droppings.

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4. Sunrising over a hidden road.

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5. Ursa’s best impression of a 3 legged unicorn.

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6. Hanna
a) Failing to understand the prefix Uni-, going for the Duo-corn instead…
b) Aptly titled: Diablo dog.

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7. No possible connection to unicorns, rainbows or lollipops so I creatively call this: Bubbles Under Ice On a Cold Morning in Vermont. Dogs Shouldn’t Have Tried To Go Swimming.

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Score!

While Maja was unable to snag me the Duvet Coat from H&M, she did get me this beauty. I’ll take it! I look forward to staging a style post when it hits Vermont. In the meantime, I’ve got another style post to tackle this weekend, plus painting, collecting our turkey from a local farm, meal planning for Thanksgiving (and procuring the necessary fixins from the holiday farmer’s market), viewing Breaking Dawn (duh!), and knitting this ridiculous plush turkey.

Also, this week my inbox has been brimming with hysterical and brilliant links that you too deserve to enjoy.

– So many dumb ways to die. Addison and Courtland are really jamming on this song. Also? Best PSA ever.

– If you love the Princess Bride as much as the Ulmer family, you must watch this. INCONCEIVABLE!

– I donated to this Kickstarter when I first learned about Goldie Blox – but I must not have shared it here! Apologies! This week I received three emails with links to a post about it on Upworthy. See ya later, Barbie!

– I do hope you read this. Because you are beautiful.

Best baby jacket ever. Could totally be a purple cow, yes?

A gender-neutral preschool. And yet one more reason I wish I lived in Sweden. One day!

And with that, happy weekend, y’all!

Bubble Hat

Yesterday, I took a time out from my daily life, drove down to Lenox, and sat in the corner of a coffee shop knitting for three solid hours. While that may sound hellish to some of you, it was more therapeutic than any amount of time under my sunlamp, or with a shrink, or on Prozac. I needed a day, all to myself. A day with no email. No dependents. No plans. No nothing. And it was exactly as healing and relaxing as I’d hoped. It’s been a hellish fall. People in my life have been coping with so much loss and hurt and struggle. And I’ve had my own hiccups here and there. And I’ve been left feeling exhausted. Burned out. Stretched too thin. And failing on all fronts. I needed a day to make peace with that. So I basked in that stream of sunlight falling on my knitting needles and steaming cup of coffee, and thought, about nothing and everything. I recharged.

Three hours later, I was nearly done with this hat and had a renewed sense of energy and excitement for the season ahead, for what I hope to accomplish in 2013, and how to better manage and support my friends and family that need it most.

More details about the Bubble Hat and how I adapted it for this chunkier knit in my Ravelry projects here. And may you all take time for yourself when you need it most. What wonderful things can come from loving and putting ourselves first every once and awhile.

I am beautiful.

This morning, Kaki’s FGM and fellow mama emailed me the link to this post. And I found myself tearing up while reading its words.

I don’t want my girls to be children who are perfect and then, when they start to feel like women, they remember how I thought of myself as ugly and so they will be ugly too. They will get older and their breasts will lose their shape and they will hate their bodies, because that’s what women do. That’s what mommy did. I want them to become women who remember me modeling impossible beauty. Modeling beauty in the face of a mean world, a scary world, a world where we don’t know what to make of ourselves.

James tells me I’m beautiful all the time in front of the girls. And I need to stop saying, “Well, I’m glad you think so” and start saying, “Thank you. I think so, too.” Because I want my girls to grow into women who believe that about themselves, always.

Breastfeeding Baby(doll)

Have y’all heard about the baby doll… who breastfeeds? No? Well, go take a gander. Besides the monstrous choice to use comic sans as the slogan’s font for the company, I have some other thoughts about the brand.

I remember first reading about Breast Milk Baby a few years back when it was launched in Europe. The brand is actually based in Spain, and the dolls’ release caused a bit of a splash in the “mommy blogosphere.” It came to the US market in late 2011, and while I’ve had thoughts on the doll (as it seems, many many people do), I had yet to sit down and articulate them.

Then, this article hit The Boston Globe and my dear friend Meg emailed me the link and asked for my opinion. She shared her own conflicted thoughts with the following:

On the one hand:
-great counter to the “babies are fed with bottles” norm that currently exists with toy babies
-would be a cool educational tool to start lowering some of the stigma around breastfeeding in this country, and a way to teach an older sibling about a new baby

On the other hand:
-feels like it very firmly roots “dolls are girls’ toys” social conditioning, since breastfeeding is something that only a woman could do.
-I’d rather see less marketing of stuff to kids, and as good as this is, it’s yet one more toy with accessory.
-And, relatedly, I have to admit to feeling, not that it’s sexualizing girls, but that’s reinforcing childbearing and mothering as THE default option.

I responded to her email, elaborating on my own conflicted stance and agreement with the points she raised.

On the upside, I like the idea that there is a toy for children that embraces breastfeeding and stresses that there are a variety of ways a baby is fed – not just bottles. Something I’ve noticed with Sunny and a lot of her peers (both male and female), who are similarly parented by adults who aren’t concerned with stressing traditional gender roles, is that they play very fluidly with these notions of identity. Sunny sometimes feeds her babies or stuffed animals with a toy bottle, and other times she holds them to her bellybutton to “breastfeed” – she has informed me that her bellybutton has really delicious milk. And I’m not all that worried about her understanding the anatomy of breastfeeding at age 3 – just as I’ve seen peer boys of hers pretend to breastfeed – one even claimed that juice was coming out of his nipple – and his twin brother declared, mine has BEER! (clearly trying to be inflammatory and get a reaction from his parents). I realize that I am fortunate that so many of my peer parents here aren’t concerned if their son is pretending to breastfeed – just as I’m not worried if my daughters want to pretend to stand to pee like boys, or play doctor or horsie or truck driver, etc.

Unfortunately, that is not how most of the world operates, specifically in the US. I have a feeling that a breastfeeding baby doll is going to primarily be given to girls and reinforce this idea that babies are for girls, and that mothering is a default for girls/women. In fact, The Breast Milk Baby website stresses that the doll is FOR GIRLS as “little girls need to learn to breastfeed.” I absolutely disagree with that claim as I don’t think explaining the biology or mechanics of breastfeeding is all that crucial in a little girl (or boy’s) development. And I’m concerned that this company is specifically marketing to girls with claims that it’s important that we raise girls to be nurturing, breastfeeding mothers. Not all girls grow up to be mothers. For me, as a parent raising my daughters, I like the notion that my girls can experiment and be completely fluid with their identities for as long as possible, limiting pressures that make them feel like they have to do, or wear, or play in any specific way. And I know that’s terribly optimistic – and if I knew the doll could be used in such a flexible fashion everywhere, I’d be more on board – but a part of me is uncomfortable, purely based on the claims the company itself is making.

Also, as the article in the Globe states, Haven’t little girls been mimicking the act of breastfeeding with their baby dolls for centuries without benefit of accoutrement? I will always be resistent to and wary of commercialized toys that suggest that my children need and want STUFF! THINGS! MORE! As I’ve said, I’ve seen Sunny breastfeed her babydolls plenty. And she didn’t need a doll that makes suckling noises and a flower-pastied bra to do it.

What are your thoughts on the doll? I would love to hear! Would you give your child The Breastmilk Baby? Your daughter? Your son? What’s your reaction, whether or not you’re a parent yourself?

More thoughts on flexible play and identity in children in this post I wrote back in March of 2011 – Cinderella Ate My Daughter.

Currently Gawking

The entire Maison Martin Margiela line for H&M that launches on Thursday.

Sadly, these pieces will only be found in major cities, so that wipes my chances clear off the map.

HOWEVER! I have called in Swedish reinforcements. Maja, designer of my wedding dress and handbag maven, is going to make an attempt at nabbing me this jacket on Thursday morning in Stockholm. I haven’t been able to shake my desire ever since I laid eyes on the puffy, oversized, down gorgeousness a few months back. Not only is it insanely cool, it is also insanely practical for Vermont winters. Curse those Angelenos who will get dibs on this beauty with absolutely no need for such an item in their wardrobe, ever. Much like umbrellas and Uggs.

For you lucky dogs in metropolitan areas, get thee to an H&M Thursday. Meanwhile, I’ll be in a country field, twitching with jealousy.

Shop ’em: 1. Down Coat; 2. Dress; 3. Leggings; 4. Shoes

Sunny-lina, Ballerina

Yesterday was parent observation night at Sunny’s ballet class. It brought me so much joy to watch my daughter run around in her little blue leotard and bun.

These photos make the whole experience look so beautiful and serene. Although, the reality was anything but. The teacher is phenomenal at herding fidgety kittens doped up on cat nip. Because honestly, that’s what this group of little girls was like. The picture below is quite an accurate portrayal of the (semi) organized chaos that is preschool ballet.

Around the Farm // 14

The majority of our weekend was spent painting. James is nearly done with the south side of our home’s exterior. Hallelujah! And just in the nick of time, I’d say, what with the rapidly falling temperatures and predictions of snowfall. I’ll have a full blow by blow and grand reveal soon.

I turned our door bright yellow, and began the long and tedious process of coating our interior trim with fresh white paint. While a visitor would never realize, I must admit, it brightens the house immensely. See?

For the walls, I used Martha Stewart’s Sharkey Grey in an eggshall finish. For the trim, Benjamin Moore’s Snow White in a satin finish. And for the door, Benjamin Moore’s Lemon in a semi-gloss finish.

We also had a hot chocolate play date and a flu shot “play date.” Williams students descended on our home on Saturday to “winterize” as part of a service project. One of the many perks of  living in a college town. We had friends over for brunch on Sunday and basked in the glorious final rays of the season before the usual grey of winter sets in. We purchased a cart wheel for the front porch of Cartwheel Farm. Finally! We continued to struggle with the one year old’s digestive tract, and I became obsessed with the notion of installing a wood stove in our living room. I’m thinking this one. Small and compact, just like our home.

And, while visiting an alpaca farm to entertain the girls on Sunday afternoon, I couldn’t resist the impulse to purchase two plush knit chickens. I imagine they’ll be the centerpiece for Thanksgiving dinner.

What did YOU do this weekend?

Month 15

Kicky Kaks,

This week, inspired by many a comment at your immense and towering height, I held you up against Sunny’s growth chart. You, my dear, are the height Addison was when she was 19 months old. As a reminder, this letter is to mark your 15 month of life, so whoa Jill and the Bean Stalk! We’re going to need to renovate our house before you hit puberty as I’m convinced the ceilings of our little farm house just won’t cut it when you’re full grown without inflicting scoliosis. It’s so completely awesome that both you and your sister will be tall, statuesque women. Middle school will be tough. I know, I lived it with every boy at chest height. Slow dancing equals WAY awkward. But, I promise, there will come a time in your life when you will embrace and take pride in your six foot plus stature. You’re already on your way!

This has been a month of costumes, and you made quite the oxymoronic Wolf (far too cute to be big and bad), and you were the Eeyore of the cow world at Homecoming. I must admit that I will miss the simple joy of dressing up my stumbling one year old in ridiculous animal apparel. I fear that by next year that stubborn and noisy personality of yours will have taken control of all wardrobe decisions, so I won’t get such an unburdened hand in the process.

Because when I say that you are stubborn and noisy that does not adequately describe the way in which you furiously hurl food from the table if it doesn’t suit your palette, or mommy or daddy dare try to feed you, don’t we know that you can do this yourself? Or the way you scream with the fervor of a hopeless barn cat being mauled by a pack of coyotes when you get bored in your car seat. One would think that your seat had grown claws and carnivorous teeth with the way you carry on. You insist on climbing all furniture, specifically so that you can stand on top of any table surface, pulling every bottle, can, and jar out of the recycling, rummaging around under the sinks, and flinging every single book off the shelf at least three times a day. If we try to stop you, well, ready your earplugs, because the resulting trifecta (pouting/screaming/flailing) is ferocious. Better you make a mess or perfect your trapeze-balancing skills than I intervene.

And once again, I find myself writing about the more unpleasant extremes of your personality, which just is not fair, because, my dear, when you are good, you are so very very good. You can now feed the dogs without any assistance. You know which bowl is Hanna’s and that it goes on the floor, and you understand that Ursa’s goes up on the bench. You clap and smile with utmost pride every time you finish the mealtime routine, patting the dogs’ backs while cooing “Oh whoa whoa!!” And I cannot get enough of the way you dance and shake and shimmy during our daily family dance parties. You are so intent on learning to jump like the rest of us. You bend at the waist and fling your arms skyward in an attempt to defy gravity and yet, for now, your feet stay firmly planted to the ground. I will be sad the day you loose those concrete appendages. You imitate Emilio’s crow and every time Ursa barks you declare NA! NA! to try to silence her. You sit in your “reading chair” once a day, quietly flipping through pages in your board books. You hug and kiss and laugh and smile and play with your big sister. When you are happy and cheerful, it is impossible for us to be anything but the same, no matter how grey or dreary the day (which these days, is quite the frequent occurrence). Thanks for being my all natural sunlamp.

Sadly, the past week has been marked by a stopped up digestive system. You have been suffering at the hand of your preferred diet of bananas, cheese and bread. And it has been a pitiful and stressful sight to behold. We’ve been inflicting some serious dietary changes and I’ve taken to wearing earplugs at mealtime to combat your protestations (see paragraph 3). But let me tell you something, kid, if you ever doubt for a second how much your father and I love you, take solace in the fact that he and I have now each helped pull feces from your struggling, stopped up bum to alleviate your suffering faster. And while this may embarrass you horribly that I wrote about prying poop from your butt for the whole wide Internet to read, I guarantee that I am not the first nor the last parent to demonstrate this kind of loyalty and love. I would do anything to ease your pain and comfort your cries, including directly assisting in your bowel movements. THAT, my darling, is love. And I wish I could state it in a more eloquent and refined fashion, but I think this sums it up quite perfectly.

Wishing you a more regular month and all my love,
143 Mama

Holiday Card 2012 // giveaway

As I said yesterday, I am in full on holiday mode, which means, yes, holiday cards are on the brain. I grew up in a family where every season my mother sent out a beautiful Christmas photo card. I remember hours sitting at the dining room table, stuffing envelopes, stamping, licking, sticking, addressing to help her prep the cards for delivery. She had a long list of friends, family, acquaintances, and colleagues that she would mail to each year. Often it’d be her only point of contact with certain people during the year, but it was a lovely gesture and thoughtful nod to their friendship.

I have always dreamed of carrying out this tradition with my own family. Compiling a stack of cards from all of our holidays to give to my daughters when they were older. A tangible history and memory of their childhood. I have my stack tucked away in my stationery drawer to return to whenever I’m in need of a shot of nostalgia and Christmas cheer. I began this tradition last year with this card. I loved its simple design and wanted to highlight the peace and innocence that is the hallmark of infancy. This year, our focus is on our life in Vermont on Cartwheel Farm.

I’ve team up with Minted, an unbelievable online shop devoted to the art of the written word and paper goods. The Minted community of indie artists creates some of the most unique and well-designed stationery and invitations on the market. And I’m proud to say that it is another thriving Eph business with founder and CEO Mariam Naficy ’91 at the helm. Last night James and I sat down and selected our favorite photo card designs (a simple click of the heart in Minted’s layout drops your favorites into a folder so you can easily see and whittle down your favorites). Then we used Minted’s easy personalize tool to format each card with our family’s info and photographs. We’ve narrowed our selection down to eight cards, and now we need your input to finalize our decision. In exchange for weighing in on our selection, you’ll be entered to win a $75 gift certificate from Minted so you too can create your own custom paper goods!

And I have a special surprise for the back of our card (that will be on whatever design we choose) that I’ll reveal when the card is ordered and in hand!

Shop ’em: 1. Making Spirits Bright; 2. Merry and Bright Sparkles; 3. Holiday Blocks; 4. Oh What Color; 5. Holiday Map – East Coast; 6. Cheer is Here; 7. Merry Bright Season; 8. Dotted Noel

To enter to win a $75 Gift Certificate to Minted:

• tell me what your favorite holiday photo card design is from the selection above for our family

• for an extra chance to win…
‘like’ Minted and Blog a la Cart on Facebook, then come back here and tell us you like us, you really like us! in the comments

• for another chance to win…
follow Minted and Blog a la Cart on Twitter, then tweet the following phrase (then, come back here and share a link to your Tweet in the comments): Did you catch @blogalacart & @minted  $75 Gift Certificate giveaway? I just entered!: http://blogalacart.com/2012/11/holiday-card-2012-giveaway/

 and one final chance to win…
subscribe to Blog a la Cart, then come back here and let me know that you’re reading along in the comments.

Make sure you enter a valid email address in the email section of the comment box so I can contact you if you win! The winner will be chosen next Friday, November 16  at 5pm EST. Open worldwide. Total Value: $75