For Gil

by Ashley Weeks Cart

He died on a Tuesday. Surrounded by family. He was 42 years old.

Our beloved Donna once again has faced a loss so deep, and unexpected, and unimagineable that language fails me.

She said, “Now Jordan has his daddy.”

And I feel the physical pain and devastation that accompanies that truth. I know it’s just a fraction of what her own heart carries. How does she bear it with such grace and kindness?

I want to stomp around claiming that life is UNFAIR! Arbitrary and cruel!

And then I read this, They left me with your shadow, saying things like Life is not fair & I believed them for a long time. But today, I remembered the way you laughed & the heat of your hand in mine & I knew that life is more fair than we can ever imagine if we are there to live it.

And so I hold my babies closer. And kiss with intent. And say a thousand, I love yous. And thank yous thank yous thank yous. Because you never know. You just never know.